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By Rabbi Marc Gellman | April 12, 2013
Q: In my local newspaper today, there were articles about Jared Loughner, who shot and killed six people and wounded 12 more in Arizona in 2011, and James Holmes, who is linked to the fatal shooting of 12 people and wounding of an additional 58 in a Colorado movie theater last year. Both of these young men, and many (if not most) of the other mass shooters in recent years, seem to have had histories of serious mental illness. Loughner's family reported that he was constantly talking to people who weren't there and thought the government was out to get him - classic symptoms of severe paranoid schizophrenia.
November 9, 2001
Deepa Bharath COSTA MESA -- Two years ago, couple Eric Floyd and Pam Winchester came back from work to find their Eastside home burglarized. The thieves had taken Floyd's Yamaha guitar and his Toshiba laptop computer, on which he saved much of his office work. "We felt violated," Floyd said. "The items were not all that valuable, but we were surprised this incident happened here because this is a nice neighborhood and we had never heard of anything like this happen here."
By Fr. Stephen Doktorczyk | July 16, 2011
I believe that a good deal of our suffering stems from unforgiveness. It can be difficult to forgive someone who has gravely wronged us, and even more so when that same person refuses to ask for pardon or believes that he or she did nothing wrong to begin with. If you find yourself sometimes struggling in this area, you might be interested in knowing more about St. Maria Goretti. Born in Italy in 1890, Maria lived with her parents and five siblings on a farm very near a widower and his teenaged son. The families shared a common kitchen and would often run into one another in the close quarters.
By Steve Dale | May 22, 2012
Question: I once lived in Highland Park, Ill., with a cat named Poco. We were inseparable. When he was diagnosed with kidney stones, I had to give him up. I just couldn't afford treatment in 1987. I still miss Poco very much. How do I ask for forgiveness when he depended on me for everything? I feel like I let him down big time. — C.H., Bloomington, Ind. Answer: How I wish we had the power to change the past, but so far, that can't be done. And I don't have the power to exonerate you. Besides, who am I?
By Rabbi Marc Gellman | September 14, 2012
I am deep in prayer and preparation for the Jewish High Holidays that begin with the Jewish New Year celebration of Rosh Hashana this Sunday evening (all Jewish holidays begin the sundown before the day of the holiday. This is followed in 10 days by Yom Kippur, the day of fasting and repentance, beginning at sundown Sept. 25. Let me do my work with you first. I ask your forgiveness, dear readers, for all my careless words and phrases that have distorted the word of God or the teachings of other faiths, or have hurt or confused you in any way. God is not through with me yet. I also forgive you for all those moments when what you thought you read is not what I wrote, nor what I meant, and so on those occasions, which I hope were rare, you did not have the great pleasure of understanding me. May all my Jewish readers and their families enjoy a New Year of health and happiness, and may the healing of our broken world begin with each and every one of us. To my non-Jewish readers, God bless you and keep you and may we find our way together and apart up the paths we've chosen on the same mountain.
October 23, 1999
EDITOR'S NOTE: Places to Worship features brief descriptions of churches and temples in our community. They appear each week on a rotating basis. ARMENIAN APOSTOLIC ST. MARY ARMENIAN APOSTOLIC CHURCH St. Mary Armenian Apostolic Church defines its work as religious and spiritual, national and social. Years of communism; the tremendous earthquake in 1988 that killed some 55,000 and left cities in ruins; the now fledgling independence for Armenia; and recent war in Azerbaijan have created many needs abroad and among immigrants establishing a new life here.
By Tom Titus | June 16, 2011
Like their contemporaries, the Frank family of nearby Amsterdam, the Ten Booms of Haarlem, Holland, who weren't Jewish, were persecuted for providing refuge to Jews duringWorld War II. Another contrast: While Anne Frank's words survived via her famous diary, she did not. Conversely, Corrie ten Boom was released and became celebrated on the postwar lecture circuit. It is her reminiscences that inspired "The Hiding Place," Corrie's story adapted by Tim Gregory, and the opening entry of the American Coast Theater Company's fourth season at Costa Mesa's Vanguard University — the ACTC's most ambitious project yet. While "Anne Frank" ended with the family's capture, "Hiding Place" devotes its entire second act to the captives' brutal treatment at the hands of the Nazis.
June 30, 2000
1. SIGN ME UP: Author Kenny Kingston will sign copies of his latest book "I Still Talk To ..." at 7 p.m. Friday at Barnes & Noble, 953 Newport Center Drive, Newport Beach. Information: (949) 759-0982. 2. DO YOU CANOE? Enjoy the great outdoors. Newport Bay naturalists will lead a canoe tour of Upper Newport Bay at 8:30 a.m. Friday. Visitors will meet at 600 Shellmaker St., Newport Beach. The fee is $13. Information and/or reservations: (949) 640-6746. 3. FORGIVE, FORGET: "Healing Ritual of Forgiveness: Amends to Men," a self-help lecture on how to let go of bad experiences in close relationships, will begin at 10 a.m. Sunday at The Latest Thing, 270 E. 17th St., Costa Mesa.
October 16, 2002
-- Story and photo by Coral Wilson In Dan Millstein's Japanese rock garden, each pebble could represent a thought, an idea or even a person. By raking them into patterns, the attempt is to take all of the individuals and create some sense of order out of the whole. Millstein relates this to prisoners. "Their thoughts are disorderly," he said. "Isn't that why we imprison them and try to contain them in a small space so we can feel safe?" Millstein is the founder of Visions for Prisons, a nonprofit organization in which volunteers teach stress management, parenting, art, meditation and re-entry skills to prisoners, offering them the possibility of changing their lives and helping them stay connected to society.
May 25, 2002
Kimberlie Zakarian EDITOR'S NOTE: Cindy Trane Christeson is on vacation. Her column, "The Moral of the Story," will return next week. It saddens me that lately I have encountered numerous hurting marriages. It seems that at the root of this hurt lies unforgiveness and a fear that forgiving means what another has done to you is OK. It excites me that there can be a victory over every trial. As I counsel various marriages, I have only one hope to profess, the hope that all are able to grasp onto and accept -- God and the Bible.
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