Q: The scenario: My lover and future partner dies unexpectedly. Yes, people say that life goes on, he wouldn't want you to be alone, blah, blah, blah, but when I find another person and fall in love again, when I die, do I go to my deceased lover, or do I wait for my new love to die? Or if my new love goes first, do I pick when I die who to be with? It's almost like I don't want to move on and fall in love again. Part of me wants to bide my time until we meet again and finish what we started. Please help me with this.
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A: The first thing is: May God comfort you on your loss. Secondly, life after death and love are deep mysteries around which we construct our lives and hopes. They are not "blah, blah, blah." My view is that the souls of all those we have ever loved await us in heaven.