As my oldest daughter's first birthday approached, I had this grand idea of writing her an annual letter describing what I wished for her in the upcoming year. I envisioned sitting down at my desk, nursing a tumbler of bourbon while I contemplated the wisdom I would dispense. These would be the words, memorialized in my handwriting, which would help guide her in later years.
My best intentions of creating something special, personal and lasting remained just that, intentions. With another daughter in tow, I've jotted a few notes to myself over the years about what I believe is important.
So on this Father's Day, I figured I'd make up for lost time and offer a few words of wisdom to my girls.
Be curious. I marvel at what my kids pick up, listening to their friends, parents, teachers, coaches or even watching TV. Observation may be a learned skill, but taking that knowledge and applying it to different contexts can be magical. While knowing a lot of information may be useful, I place a premium on imagination. Don't stop asking why, how, or what if.
Be humble. I respect determination, not obstinacy. I know how difficult it is to ask for help (just ask my wife), but I end up making better decisions when I solicit assistance and opinions from people with different perspectives. Humility requires an open mind, respect for others and quiet regard for process. Results are important, but not at the expense of alienating and marginalizing people in the process.
Be your own best advocate. Early in my career, I was passed over for a promotion because my boss didn't know I wanted the position. I assumed that, based on my consistently lauded performance, respect of my coworkers, and excellent relationship with my supervisor, I would be the first choice. But I didn't directly express my interest in the job, and never made my case. The only way others really know what you think, and what you want, is by expressing it. But do so thoughtfully and deliberately.
