Most of us have had times in our lives when the statements or actions of others have hurt us. If we dwell on the injury, our life will be negatively impacted. While the scriptures have a number of admonitions on this subject, I approach this commentary purely from the point that the inability to forgive is destructive behavior that will affect not only us, but everyone with whom we associate.
An LDS pioneer once said: "There are two courses of action when bitten by a rattlesnake. One may, in anger, fear or resentfulness, pursue the rattlesnake and kill it. Or, he may make full haste to get the venom out of his system. If we pursue the latter, we will be likely to survive, but if we attempt to follow the former we may not be around long enough to finish it."
We must be most careful that we do not cause spiritual or emotional snakebites in the first place. Especially within our families, we can hurt the ones we love most with small arguments and petty criticisms that, if unchecked, can poison relationships and escalate into estrangements, even abuse and divorce.
Forgiveness does not require us to accept or tolerate evil. It does not require us to ignore the wrong that we see in the world around us or in our own lives. But as we fight against wrong, we must not allow hatred or anger to control our thoughts or actions.
That is not to say that forgiveness is easy. When we or someone else is hurt, the pain can almost be overwhelming and can even cause one to seek vengeance. When we forgive others, it frees us to choose how we will live our own lives. Forgiveness means that problems of the past no longer cloud our judgment regarding future actions.