As a parent, it's hard to swallow. You've spent thousands of dollars on coaches, enrichment classes and tutoring. Your kid has stayed the course and put his head down, trudging day in and day out, doing what he feels you want him to do, or what someone is telling him to continue to do.
He goes through the motions, but it's obvious to you that he feels uninspired and has lost sight of what's really important to him, all in the name of what he's told will look "best."
Sometimes, as the parent, you are a passive observer watching the struggle and heartache, wanting to teach your child the value of sticking it out.
"My child is not a quitter," you think.
But, other times, you see such struggle that you wonder, is it worth it? Is my child happy and inspired or maybe a bit too lazy? What gives?
With respect to the impact on college admissions, how do you help your children decide between when it's time to give up or continue on with their albatross activity? When is staying the course the best plan of action? Parents, unfortunately, more often than not, the answer is not cut and dry.
I'd like to tell you not to help them make a decision based on what "looks best" to colleges. But, to be honest, I can't.
It really depends on the types of colleges to which your child plans to apply. The more selective the college — and many of our state colleges and universities are selective — the more careful the student needs to be about giving up or quitting.
While it's acceptable to allow your child to struggle, it's downright wrong to make your child stay the course when his confidence is dwindling and the stress is overwhelming and spilling into other areas of life.