Memorial Day and its Nov. 11 counterpart, Veterans Day, were meant to be distinct occasions; yet the two more or less have blurred into one, particularly for those who were raised during times of relative peace. The former was established to honor fallen servicemen and women, the latter to honor retired and former members of the Armed Forces who survived combat and lived on after wartime.
Memorial Day goes back to America's bloodiest conflict, the Civil War. According to a history from the U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs, it was first called Decoration Day. On May 5, 1868, Maj. Gen. John Logan, a Union Army veteran, declared that the gravestones of all the Civil War dead be decorated with flowers on May 30. And, in an act of national healing and reconciliation on this day 142 years ago, dead soldiers from both the Union and Confederate armies were honored that way during an inaugural Decoration Day ceremony at Arlington, Va.
Closer to home, Memorial Day 2010 services will take place at the Pacific View Memorial Park in Corona del Mar, at American Legion Post 291 on the Balboa Peninsula and at Harbor Lawn-Mt. Olive Memorial Park and Mortuary in Costa Mesa. While the view from Harbor Lawn likely won't be as beautiful as at the two other locations, we nonetheless recommend a visit to the Costa Mesa Veterans Memorial, which opened at Harbor Lawn on Memorial Day 2007.
Go there when no one else is around, and you will leave with a lump in the throat. For a cemetery located so close to the busy intersection of Harbor Boulevard and Gisler Avenue, Harbor Lawn is surprisingly peaceful.